the bigger picture

ok, well i just had a conversation with a friend bekky...

she is my age (21), is estranged from her mum and her dad is in america,
has 2 kids of her own (one with downsyndrome and the other a baby), and has taken on her husbands baby as well. They have moved to christchurch, which is a LONG way away from friend and family, and she also struggles with an eating disorder... needless to say she is not coping very well.

it is a silly situation, i did wonder when they moved weather it was a good idea to go so far, but they needed a bigger house so that social services would let them keep summer, and it was cheaper down there. however she needs to have some support, she is finding food hard, and social services are always around, and there is only so much anyone can do. iv offered to pop down, but it will cost me £50 which i cant really afford to do, and i know if i do it this week which is fine, i wont be able to do it again till, well till i find some money!

i dont mind going and baby sitting, going to the doctors with her, finding some parent and toddler groups she can go to, doing food shopping and preparing meals etc and of course being a shoulder to cry on, but i just wish there was more i could do. if she lived nearer it would be fine, id be able to help her out more, but as it stands i can do very little and am watching her destroy herself.

she obviously doesnt want to get better from her ed, which i can understand...its a way og coping after all, but if she carries on with no support she will no longer be able carry on.

seeing her makes me feel very greatful indeed for everything i have been offered latly.